The "post Super Bowl" victory sex ad that you suspected would be up on Craigslist is indeed up on Craigslist.
Okay, so maybe this is just me being grandmother, but did you know that sex parties now regularly use Facebook to invite and to create guestlists? My Facebook invites in the past have included birthday parties, breathing classes, yoga retreats, comedy shows, and just your regular weekly club/bar events, but there was this new one, "Underwear/Sex party in large apartment". It was your typical sex party as rent party scenario where you pay $20 at the door, put your clothes in a bag and stroll around an apartment (that has had all of its valuables safely tucked away). They typically serve a little booze and people get down. There have been these types of parties for as long as people have paid rent.
The key to throwing such a soiree is keeping a guest list that is into each other. You don't invite Hell's Kitchen tweakers and Brooklyn bifocal bears to the same place. Adding the element of Facebook makes it suddenly very upfront as to who will be there and what type of crowd it will be. And if you like someone and would like to see them again, you can just go back to Facebook after the party. No need for lube-smeared phone numbers written on Brawny paper towels.
And as a final note, the event organizers asked that I not post a link. Maybe you'll get your invite soon though?
I'm afraid this is less true (unless you consider rubbing your dick raw "dangerous") than "Horny + Manhunt/Grindr/A4A/Dudesnude, etc. = Dangerous".
FAR less true than "Horny + Doing Crystal During a Gang Bang...", I am convinced.
Still, Tumblr in conjunction with horny - if you've followed enough of the "right" tumblrs - can certainly do significant damage to a) your fantasies b) your sleep quota, and c) your sheets.
I'm still hypothesizing the reason why not eating would enhance my orgasm. I mean, ejaculate is not a toxin so it wouldn't make sense from a "purging" kind of perspective. Also, I'm not feeling "it" more intensely when I pee (I don't think?), which is definitely my body purging toxins, so...an intensification of feeling doesn't seem to be the result of expelling toxins.
Whatever the reason, I don't usually get off from solely looking at still images. That said, I'm certainly "inspired", perusing this magazine. It's a bit cheesy/slick, which is usually the opposite of sexy, but it's obvious its producers put a lot of thought and effort into it. If I may be vague and non-qualifying, it seems to be a "high-quality" publication (in fact, it says so as the preview pages load!). That, the fact it features FYF Friend Max Rhyser and its slogan (especially the "Less Fashion - More Skin" part) have me intrigued enough I'll revisit in the near future.
Check the free (minus penii) magazine length preview here.
Let's say this: In a way, it looks kind of sweet..even tender? Also, when looped as it is here, it makes it look a bit like he's performing a modified (upside-down?) Heimlech on him, or a massage or something other than what - I have no reason not to surmise - he's doing, doesn't it?
Takeaway (perhaps?): how something appears is often the opposite of how it actually feels.
(Just a reminder - clearly NSFW...)
Best posted "after dark"...posts with pornographic subject matter here on FYF are a logical extension of our mission to provide a gay perspective like none other - or at least most like our gay perspective? - by addressing head-on an often vast aspect of a homosexual's existence; i.e. - sex and sexuality.
Unfortunately with pornographic images, video and stories, the end result is nearly as often frustrating as it is fantastic. Having spent the first 27 years of my life relying solely on pornography to supplement my fantasy of sex and help me to stave off my horniness, I've learned this lesson first...*ahem*...hand.
And, with that said, I think you've gotten a fairly good glimpse at of what our coverage of porn, sex and sexuality will consist.
For starters? Here are a few of my favorite (fantasy) things. (It goes without saying the photos/content following the jump are NSFW or anywhere public unless you're on Fire Island, in West Hollywood, or on your phone at Splash.
What indeed is going on in this TUMS commercial? I see it. James St. James sees it. The girlfriend in the commercial sees it to the point that she shields her pink teddy bear's eyes. See it for yourself and then maybe eat a corndog. Or a banana.
Do you gag easily? There's no need to accept it as a limitation. With some simple steps you can lose your gag reflex. WikiHow offers the following tips:
Find out where your gag reflex starts. This can be done by simply using your toothbrush to brush your tongue. The point nearest the front of your tongue that makes you gag is where you want to concentrate.
- Breathe through your nose. Taking a nasal decongestant beforehand can help clear the nasal passageways and facilitate breathing, if your nose is congested.
- Lift both of your legs if you're sitting or lying down on your back. Tightening your abdominal muscles might help stop gagging.
- Numb your soft palate. When an object touches the soft palate (far back in the roof of your mouth), it triggers the gag reflex. You can use a numbing throat spray to soothe the soft palate, or a gel that's normally used to relieve tooth pain. The effects should last for about an hour, and your soft palate will be less sensitive.
- Put a little table salt on your tongue.
- Hum. You might find that it's difficult to gag and hum at the same time.
- Beware the gag reflex in the morning. Some people report that they're more likely to gag earlier in the day. Try to schedule the gag-inducing activity for the late afternoon or evening instead.
- Relax. The gag reflex is triggered by a combination of psychology and physiology. For some people, the psychological aspect will play a larger role. Maybe you've had a traumatizing experience at a doctor or dentist's office in the past, or in general, you have a fear of losing control.
- Disengage your gag reflex. By gradually getting your soft palate accustomed to being touched, you can minimize the gag reflex, or perhaps even get rid of it completely. This is the first step that sword swallowers must take and it does require effort and patience over time:
- Brush your tongue right where your gag begins. Yes, you'll gag. It will be unpleasant, but not for long. Spend about 10 seconds brushing that area (and gagging), and call it a night.
- Repeat the process over the next few nights in the exact same spot. You'll notice you gag less each time you do it.
- Increase the brushing area. Once you can touch your toothbrush on that spot without gagging, it's time to move the toothbrush further back. Try brushing 1/4-1/2 inch behind where your gag used to begin. This is your new starting point. Repeat the process as you did in the first spot.
- Continue moving the brush further. Each time you move the toothbrush back, your gag has been desensitized in the previous spot. Keep moving it further and further back until you've reached the furthest visual point of your tongue. Eventually, the toothbrush will come in contact with the soft palate, if it hasn't already.
- Be persistent. This whole process should take approximately a month to complete. When it's all said and done, you should be able to have a doctor swab the back of your throat without gagging. You might have to re-do the process from time to time, as your reflex may return if you don't.
And there you have it. You're now ready for the weekend. Good luck!
What a week of wonders, this week! Yes? Yes. We made it. We outran this horrible, wretched, no-good Winter (icy bitch!) and met up with our good-time chum Spring and suddenly, there are longer days! Gone are the days of 4'o'clock dusks and New Yorkers looking angrier than normal. In fact yesterday, I celebrated the good weather by walking down a stretch of Broadway, gold scarf whipping against in the wind while I mimed along to Alexandra Burke's opus "Overcome". Yes, friends. It's that kind of week. And now: Overcome your weeks with a collection of carefully-curated treats. Below.
In case it was lost in the previous two posts, the point of Now and Later was to highlight the obligatory coverage/inclusion of extreme violence in American media while the same outlets maintain a puritanical prudery with regards to covering/including sex and nudity. The idea was to expose the deleterious effects - on individuals as well as society as a whole - of emphasizing violence while censoring sex and nudity.
The Q&As with the stars probably go furthest in accomplishing this, aside from watching the movie. Read them here.
...but not in thanks for my earlier post on "Unrated: A Week of Sex in Cinema". Instead, mine was apparently the only ticket sold for the final screening of the series headliner.
How was it? A bit amateurish (the lighting set-ups were pretty uneven/horrible at times as was the acting/dialogue.) but kind of exactly a movie I would make: slightly hokey, a little earnest and sweetly sexual (with attractive stars).
There was a lot of sex and it was explicit. Going in, I fully expected to see lots of nudity from the female star, but when she pulled the male star's dick out in the first sex scene I almost didn't believe they were actually showing his hard-on.
I quickly acclimated, though!
The most interesting thing about the movie for me wasn't the sex itself, however, but rather me realizing that - every time they had sex - I was unconsciously steeling myself for something "unexpected"; something disastrous/climactic (no pun!) to happen to them while they were in the throes of intercourse and relatively unaware of their surroundings. This, in turn, led to the further realization that my movie-watching experience has taught me that bad things always happen during sex.
How fucked up is that!?
THIS TRAILER MAY NOT BE SAFE FOR YOU TO WATCH IN YOUR WORKPLACE!
There's particularly not enough real sex in American movies when compared to the amount of violence that is in, according to filmmaker Philippe Diaz. His belief that a sexually repressed society expresses itself through violence is the underlying motivation for him making his new film, Now and Later (NSFW), as well as the philosophy that informs much of its content.
Set in L.A., the movie details the unfolding relationship between a fallen investment banker and the illegal Latina immigrant who takes him in. Apparently this involves a lot of graphic sex.
Now and Later is screening in the U.S. in New York (at Quad Cinema) and in L.A. as part of Cinema Libre Studios' Unrated: A Week of Sex in Cinema which kicked off last night with a panel discussion on censorship and sex in American films at the Museum of Sex in Gramercy. The panel included John Cameron Mitchell and Mr. Diaz, among others.
Over the week's time reference in the series title, Now and Later will play daily at the Quad, starting today, and six other films - including Cameron Mitchell's Shortbus, Lars Von Trier's Antichrist and Kirby Dick's This Film Is Not Yet Rated - will screen twice each (see the link for times.)
I think it goes without saying that American society's discomfort with viewing people connecting (at least sexually), as opposed to violently destroying each other is problematic as well incredibly telling. I also think this film series and the organizations and individuals involved who are working to right this imbalance deserve our support, particularly in this day and age when we're confronted by extremist terrorism from without and violent fundamentalism from within our borders. In such a context, anything to decrease the tendency towards violence and increase the tendency towards sex seems like a great idea.
Oh and there's also this...